The other day, my friend Jenny was like, “Girl, you need an asprin.” And I was like, “Huh?” And she was like, “Cuz you have diamond fever.”
Crap, is it that obvious?
To be honest, even I’m a little surprised at just how much those little sparkly rocks make my heart swell with glee. I’ve never been a jewelry person — OK, let me clarify. I can’t be a jewelry person. I’ve lost just about every bead and bauble I’ve ever owned. Once, Matt presented me with a little velvet box, saying, “Here, open it,” and then I lifted the lid to find the dangly earrings I’d left in his car the weekend before. “Now don’t you tell me I never get you anything nice,” he said.
So no, I’ve never owned anything fancy ever. That’s why the idea of wearing a real-life diamond is crazy to me and when Matt first mentioned ring shopping, I had this whole “I’m not worthy” mentality. (I sort of got over that, luckily.)
The first ring I fell in love with is this one.
White diamond oval ring by Melissa Joy Manning
I think it’s unique and stylish and just plain cool. I imagined it on my finger with normal clothes and with fancy clothes. I looked at it every night before I went to bed. I was smitten.
But I soon learned that the first lesson in ring shopping is to not ask for opinions. I shared the link with some girlfriends and their reactions were all the same: “Uhhhhhhhh.”
“Uhhhhhhhh, it’s cute, but you know that thing has to last for at least 50 years.”
“Uhhhhhhhh, it’s gold.”
“Uhhhhhhhh, that’s more of a birthday ring.”
I was a little sad, but I realized their opinions didn’t matter so much as long as Matt and I loved it. Though I knew getting Matt on board would be tough. First I told him the price. “It’s $690,” I said. His response? “Uhhhhhhhh, well then let’s get two in case you lose one.” I then showed him the link and he was not a fan and he said he thought we could do much better. After looking at more rings, I kind of got over that one, but I still think it’s lovely!
(P.S. My friends aren’t divas — they just like fancier rings. It’s all good.)
The ring we’re looking at now is, well, much more “normal,” but I am really crushing on it and hope that we can find a jeweler who can create it for a reasonable price. (Dude, the cost is a big deal to me! No one should live in poverty for a little thing that sparkles in the moonlight.) I suppose I’ll take my own advice and not show you the said ring until it’s purchased and on my finger — it seems like bad luck to do so beforehand, no?
I guess we’ll all just have to wait.
(HURRY!)
I suppose I’ll take my own advice and not show you the said ring until it’s purchased and on my finger.
THIS. YES. It’s like baby names. Everyone has an opinion before you decide, but once it’s selected because YOU love it, then everyone has to be nice about it. Keep it under wraps until it’s boughten would be my humble suggestion.
I am also *terrified* of losing my ring. I have “lost” it once at home, I was nearly in tears, Craig found it on the bathroom floor. No advice really except to say to always keep it on, even when you wash your hands. (although I still take it off to sleep, which means I sometimes completely forget to wear it but at least I know where it is!)
Oh I think it’s really pretty. It’s very unique and simple at the same time. But I see what your friends are saying – it isn’t traditional and you want to make sure you like it FOR-EV-ER… Ha! And you’re the only one who would best know that, right? :)
Happy ring shopping! Can’t wait to see what you guys pick!!!
I’m so so so excited for you!
As a newly engaged wedding planning maniac I get super excited when others join the club!
Aw, have fun looking! The only thing I might worry about that one is how your wedding ring will sit up against it, you might need to have a custom band made. SO PRETTY though, I would have one made for something that sweet and organic looking! =)
I like that ring, it’s not hte type of ring you see everywhere ya know? I am sure whatever ring you end up with will be juuuust perfect
Personally, I love that ring that you shared with us (and have subsequently fallen in love with Melissa Joy Manning – one day when I win the lottery, I’m going to gift myself one of her rings!). As you said, the most important thing is that you and Matt love it and aren’t in debt forever and live happily ever after. Can’t wait to see what ring you chose (and more importantly, to hear the news that you’re engaged!).
Take your time in picking rings out, I’m sure you’ll find the perfect one in the end although the ring in the picture is lovely to me. Maybe your friends mean bigger rock?:)
GO HERE:
http://www.oscarsjewelry.com/
Oscar is in the downtown jewelry district and he does tons of custom work. Show him a picture of what you want and he can make it within 2 weeks. He made my ring and my friend’s, and he always gets great reviews. G’luck!!! =D
my little god sister has a toy ring nicer than the one in that picture
Don’t be an asshole. Not everyone can live in a house with rooms the size of small cities.
Also I give this post a big thumbs down for the title. Song has been stuck in my head all day. F you Beyonce for your inability to be clever with lyrics.
aw yay for ring fever, so exciting. and i sort of really like that ring. hopefully you find something similar that you love. but woo for the ring, can’t wait to see when that happens :)
Honestly, I think as long as you like it, it doesn’t matter what other people think. Besides, you’re the only one that will be wearing it years and years from now. =) Asian men want their women to wear something with more bling bling. =) Can’t wait to see what Matt gets you.
i echo what cat said about oscar’s in downtown. didn’t get the engagement ring there, but we did get our wedding bands there and they’re great.
Wait, I forget – does this mean you’re getting engaged? The chronology of this process is confusing me.
Elaine — I’m a little confused, too. I guess Matt’s plan is for us to find a ring we like and then he’ll eventually propose with it. Of course, leave it to me to turn this into a wedding blog before I’m even engaged. Can’t help it!
for what its worth, i love the ring you posted!
I need to tell you something – NEVER EVER EVER EVER wear your ring in the water! My hubs, Phong, and I went to Maui, and in the middle of swimming in the ocean, his wedding band slipped off his finger into the darkness of the water (it was sunset, dammit). He felt so bad but I didn’t freak (me: “It’s ok honey, it’s just a material possession, we can get another one, don’t feel bad, etc). The next morning, 12 hours later, he went back out to the same spot (it was like an “at least I tried to look for it again” kind of thing), searched around for an hour, and voila! He found his ring, half buried in sand, a ways away from the original spot it slipped off. Anyways, love your ring, but don’t take it to the beach. FYI.
PS. I think the ring you posted was super cute :)
PPS. I’m so excited for you!!
I love that ring you posted. LOVE. LOOOOVVVVE.
Anyway, nobody has to love the ring except you and maybe Matt. And I agree about not buying something over the top expensive. I so don’t get the idea of a ring costing as much as a car or a down payment on a home. Get something you like – the rest of its “specialness” will come from its connection to you and Matt, not from how big a rock it is.
Hi there! I saw you and M at blogger prom last night rocking your pink outfits. Loves it!
I just got married last December so the ring searching is fresh in my mind.
I ‘m not the “you better have the perfect ring or my life is ruined forever” type of gal. I wanted MY ring to be ME so we took our sweet time looking for the one ring. We ended up getting my ring customized at Robbin’s Bros. They have the best service and best everything. Maybe you guys can take your ideas there? We went to the one in Glendale and they were just so helpful. Let me know if you need more details. Happy ring shopping!
Pretty much that ring is gorgeous. Its too skinny for my fingers (imagine fat baby carrots) but I think it is drop dead breath taking. =D And I have shared what I like in rings and diamonds and I have had many a “Uhhhhh…” moment. But you know what? They will all be super jealous once you get that ring because it will mean something ALOT more than what it looks like. =D
Love your blog and have a beautiful day!
Joe and I had a few similar interchanges when we were ring shopping. I’d find one that was like an “anniversary” ring — aka cute, but slightly less fancy than a wedding ring “should” be — and Joe’d be like, “No. You need something more than that.” And I’d be like (in my head), “This feels backwards…but I’m okay with it.”