Do I talk about weddings too much? Last night at a birthday party, the conversation turned to our wedding (I mean naturally, it’s so interesting!) and my friend was like, “Oh yeah, it’s coming up soon, huh? It’s only 9 months away.” And then my other friend started laughing and, you know what? I think she was laughing at me! Dude, first of all, I’m not (always) the one who initiates wedding talk. People ask me stuff like have you found the dress (duh, read the blog), what are your colors (pretty pastels), is it gonna be open bar (just for you, you lush), and it would just be rude not to answer them. Second of all, it’s not 9 months away, it’s 8.5 months away. ONLY 8.5 MONTHS. WHY AREN’T MORE PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT MY WEDDING!?
Just kidding. Honestly, I don’t think about the wedding ALL THE TIME. Just a lot of the time. It’s a pretty amazing distraction from the humdrum of daily living. Matt seems like he’s been more into wedding planning lately, which is kinda cool, I guess. Though one tip I read on a wedding planning blog was to not involve your fiance too much. That seems to be the general consensus among married folks. My cousin Tiffany is helping us with our invitations and the other night, she brought over some paper samples. I was like maybe we should wait until Matt gets here to choose, and she was like, “You know it’s the girl’s wedding, right? The earlier you guys realize that, the easier the whole process will be.”
I agree. I seriously don’t understand those weddings where “every detail is a reflection of the couple.” Bleh. Matt and I tried to come up with a wedding theme we both would love and I ended up screaming, “FINE! We’ll just draw a line down the middle of the ceremony — your half will be Star Wars and my half will be pretty and normal. The only time we can cross the line is when we kiss.” P.S. Matt, we are NOT walking down the aisle to the Imperial March!
We recently hired a wedding planner. We wanted to do this since our venue is so bare bones — we have to handle everything from the catering to the bar to the chairs and forks. And y’all know I’m a bit scatterbrained. So I found event planning extraordinaire Paige Appel online (her blog is super inspiring) and we met up for tea and she asked me about our wedding plans and I told her some ideas and then she started thinking of more ideas and it was so fun! I was like whoa, it’s actually someone’s job to listen to all my crazy. Who knew?
(A quick bridal PSA: We didn’t think a wedding planner was a luxury we could afford but we’re realizing that her vendor connections could help us save money in the end. So don’t rule out hiring a planner.)
OK, I realize this post had a whole lot of writing and not a lot of payoff, so um, here. A cute wedding getaway car.
How should we decorate my Cube?
I’m pretty sure I won’t be getting married for a very long time but I just want to tell you that I’m learning a lot from your wedding-related posts! I’m sure many bride-to-be’s out there are very appreciative of your down-to-earth advice :)
yo…i tried out your “signature drink” at work today…it’s pretty refreshing (as you guys requested.) lemme know when the christmas party is gonna be so i can bring everything and test it out for you guys (plus other variations…)
It is so hard to not get lost in wedding talk & thoughts when you’re planning- it’s why we planned ours & were married inside of five months, I knew it would just keep getting bigger if I didn’t reign it in!
Oh, Michelle. I freaking LOVE hearing about your wedding planning. Granted, I’ve never done it, but I think wedding planning is probably just about the best thing ever. Also! I am local and I love you AND Matt, so if you ever need help, I’ll definitely pitch in. Good luck! Please keep talking/tweeting/blogging about your wedding.
LOL, Michelle. Are you coming to the AAJA Christmas party? Just want to know so I know when to appropriately bring up your wedding. Hee!
I think gushing about your wedding is one of the unspoken rights of having the damn thing in the first place. Rock on and talk about it til your face falls off- I love it.
i am right there with you lady, so many people bring up my wedding that i feel compelled to talk about it, haha. i mean our weddings are so interesting right? and yeah we have a sort of planner and i can’t imagine not having someone to help coordinate, especially on the day of.
The getaway car is one thing you really should have nothing to do with planning. Just leave the reception to be surprised to whatever wacky contraption your wedding party has set up for you.
I think your statement should be revised to say, involve your fiance only if he wants to be involved. There are a lot of guys who don’t give two shits about wedding planning. To them, I say don’t involve them and everyone will be happier. But, my husband? He was actually interested. And wanted to participate. And had some pretty damn good ideas. It turned out to be fun planning a wedding together. Not for everyone, but it was for us.
Your posts make me wish I could get married again (to the same person, of course) just so I could plan another wedding. Funtastic!
I think I was in denial before my wedding. I didn’t talk about it. I didn’t want anyone else to talk about it. I really just wanted to elope, I think.
Anyhow, my point is, I think it’s healthy to be uber excited/stressed about your wedding. It’s a big deal, and you’re supposed to put a lot of thought into it.
Since I went kind of introvert for my wedding (I was 21, maybe I was just too young and insecure), I’m planning an incredibly awesome 7 Year Itch Anniversary Bash. It will be glorious and terrible as the dawn, and I will do ALL the things I now wish I had at my wedding.
eeek mine is like 8.5 months too! what date is yours??
I just laughed out loud at this ““FINE! We’ll just draw a line down the middle of the ceremony — your half will be Star Wars and my half will be pretty and normal. The only time we can cross the line is when we kiss.”
You are hilarious. You both are incredibly funny, I love it.