Comments on: Live out loud

By: Carissa

Carissa — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:58:32 +0000

i don’t think you are quiet. just be yourself and don’t give a fuck. be like george bush. he don’t give a fuck.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RaCr3-cjfTQ

By: Thanh

Thanh — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 02:01:23 +0000

Regarding your comment:

I doubt I will ever be perceived as “loud,” that’s just not who I am, but I do want to learn to tell stories with gusto, to captivate, to speak with confidence and honesty.

A few ideas:

(1) speaking about something that interests you will bring out your “gusto”
(2) join toastmaster or speaking group
(3) watch videos of speakers for variations (a great resource is TED.com)

Being loud or quiet has its advantages, and I think it’s when to use it is more important than being known for it.

ps. I’m spreading your inspire button – I think it’s a great design!

Thanks!

By: Jenny, Bloggess

Jenny, Bloggess — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:50:31 +0000

I’m usually awkwardly quiet until I get so uncomfortable that I start babbling some completely inappropriate story but then I try to tell it in an entertaining way to make up for how inappropriate it is and then later I’m exhausted and I go hide the bathroom until it’s time to go.

True story.

By: SoMi's Nilsa

SoMi's Nilsa — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:17:43 +0000

I think this world needs a balance of loud mouths and wee quiet ones. Me: loud with lots to say. My hubs: quiet with little to say. And we like it that way. If this world were full of one or the other, I think we’d be in lots of trouble. Though, I do commend you for wanting to learn storytelling – that is definitely an art form even this loud mouth hasn’t mastered.

By: Caz

Caz — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 00:37:31 +0000

Let me say that you don’t come across as quiet on your blog! You seem to be very loud, and happy-go-lucky and it makes for a very fun read.

That being said, I’ve never been a ‘quiet’ or ‘shy’ person generally, but I can, and have got the feeling occasionally in social situations. My bf always laughs at me, since he’s NEVER shy and it’s so rare for me when it does happen, he doesn’t know how to deal with it.

By: Ginger

Ginger — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 00:05:33 +0000

If you figure it out, let me know. That’s exactly how I am! Unfortunately, I often have to play happy hostess at my husband’s art shows, which basically means I have to spend a whole day psyching myself up for pretending to be someone who chats easily with strangers.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 21:38:27 +0000

I’m quiet, too. I’ve noticed that when we sit next to each other at parties, it’s like a competition for who had less to say. But, here’s the thing: I happen to believe we both have TONS TO SAY. I mean, we are writers, no? We’re just quiet.

And I’m not shy, really. I’m just quiet. In reality, I have no filter, and that’s why I stay quiet. Because, once I start talking, forget about it; nothing is out of bounds anymore. Which is what happens when I drink too much wine or champagne.

Some people just can’t stand quiet. And then I come across as a bitch because I’m just silent. To them, I say: EFF OFF. They talk too much anyway.

By: nicoleantoinette

nicoleantoinette — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 18:25:26 +0000

My advice: HANG OUT WITH ME MORE

By: andhari

andhari — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 18:15:59 +0000

I’M TOTALLY LIKE THAT!

Especially in new surroundings, they tend to mistake that as arrogance or something when I’m completely not like that.

By: Amy --- Just A Titch

Amy --- Just A Titch — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 18:14:30 +0000

It’s funny—I am loud, dramatic, etc. in small settings. In groups? I am quiet, and have been perceived as rude before simply because I AM ANXIOUS. I just prefer smaller settings where we can really talk, not just yell about the music at the bar or whatever.

P.S. Read your comment over at Nilsa’s and WOW. Love your exercise perspective and am totally writing that down. AWESOME.