Comments on: My Space http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/ Wed, 18 Jan 2012 20:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kayla http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5437 kayla Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:47:20 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5437 hah...Michelle you're so funny! I think it's great that you'll be showering together to save water..how GREEN of you two :) hah…Michelle you’re so funny! I think it’s great that you’ll be showering together to save water..how GREEN of you two :)

]]> By: stealthnerd http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5380 stealthnerd Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:50:13 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5380 You'll be great, trust me! I didn't live with Boo before we got married and while there are definitely some adjustments (where do MY shoes go if his shoes fill the shoe rack?! what do you mean we have to eat something different...not to mention REAL...for dinner every night?!) it's so worth it to get to see the other person every day! As for the space thing, you guys will work that out. As much as you need your space, Matt will need his too so it won't be a big deal! You’ll be great, trust me! I didn’t live with Boo before we got married and while there are definitely some adjustments (where do MY shoes go if his shoes fill the shoe rack?! what do you mean we have to eat something different…not to mention REAL…for dinner every night?!) it’s so worth it to get to see the other person every day! As for the space thing, you guys will work that out. As much as you need your space, Matt will need his too so it won’t be a big deal!

]]> By: michelle http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5360 michelle Sun, 31 Jan 2010 07:58:22 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5360 All of your comments blow me away. Thank you so, so much for all your honesty and encouragement! All of your comments blow me away. Thank you so, so much for all your honesty and encouragement!

]]> By: Nelia http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5358 Nelia Sat, 30 Jan 2010 20:17:42 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5358 Hi Michell, u guys are gonna have a great married life. I wish u much happiness & success for a lifetime. Be happy & Stay beautiful. Much love & hugs!! Hi Michell, u guys are gonna have a great married life. I wish u much happiness & success for a lifetime. Be happy & Stay beautiful.

Much love & hugs!!

]]> By: Kristan http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5357 Kristan Sat, 30 Jan 2010 15:20:43 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5357 I was totally about to write this mushy comment about how great living together is (we are "in sin," of course) and tell you not to worry about it. Then I glanced to my right at my bed, where Andy's pillow is in the middle and his blanket is all over, meaning my pillow is half-hanging off the side and I get a tiny sliver of the QUEEN sized bed in which to sleep. (We're relatively small people, yo. Queen should be plenty.) So, it's wonderful, and don't worry, but also: Stake your claim to a full half of the bed! Do it right away, or else you might end up like me! >P I was totally about to write this mushy comment about how great living together is (we are “in sin,” of course) and tell you not to worry about it. Then I glanced to my right at my bed, where Andy’s pillow is in the middle and his blanket is all over, meaning my pillow is half-hanging off the side and I get a tiny sliver of the QUEEN sized bed in which to sleep. (We’re relatively small people, yo. Queen should be plenty.)

So, it’s wonderful, and don’t worry, but also: Stake your claim to a full half of the bed! Do it right away, or else you might end up like me! >P

]]> By: katelin http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5354 katelin Fri, 29 Jan 2010 01:14:50 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5354 i think one of the most important things i've learned in my relationship with matt since we've lived together that although it is wonderful to see each other all of the time it is also crucial that we do things separately sometimes and go out with our friends or one of us is out while the other one gets to veg out in front of the tv watching girly movies (clearly matt does that all the time, haha). but really, i think it's different for everyone to live together but i doubt you and matt will have any issues and yay for husband! it's just fun to say :) i think one of the most important things i’ve learned in my relationship with matt since we’ve lived together that although it is wonderful to see each other all of the time it is also crucial that we do things separately sometimes and go out with our friends or one of us is out while the other one gets to veg out in front of the tv watching girly movies (clearly matt does that all the time, haha).

but really, i think it’s different for everyone to live together but i doubt you and matt will have any issues and yay for husband! it’s just fun to say :)

]]> By: jenin http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5353 jenin Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:14:04 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5353 hmm. i think i can offer a somewhat different perspective... steven and i have been living together since the beginning of our relationship practically! first in the room he had in the apt he shared with two other guys (that lasted all of 6 months) and then when we moved out, we moved into a tiny studio for a year. the next year we moved into a slightly bigger studio. it wasn't until our 3rd and 4th years living together that we upgraded to a 2 bedroom apt. 2 whole bedrooms and 2 whole bathrooms, can you imagine? we didn't know what to with ourselves, haha. anyway, besides communication and respect, i think the real key to us not killing each other in small spaces was our schedules. i was teaching at the time so i would get home by 3 and have up to 4 hours of alone time before steven got home from work every day. we were able to spend mornings together, too, which was nice. in the rare times we did have a fight or a disagreement, one of us (usually me) would sit in the bathroom or the walk-in closet until we calmed down. sounds hilarious now, but that's what we used to do. now that we're happily married =) and in a new 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apt, i'm finding that our new challenges are of the decorating sort. namely, what colors to paint the walls, how to arrange the furniture, where to put the thousands of books i have and all of his electronic/gaming equipment, etc. a friend of mine who's been married a lot longer told me when she and her husband were renovating their bathroom, they almost got divorced! i don't know how serious and/or funny she was being, but it makes sense to me now, however silly and trivial it may sound. our only actual yelling and screaming fight was over how to arrange the furniture in our new living room. seriously. so, in sum, like everyone else said, LOTS of communication, honesty, and respect, plus time to have to yourselves whenever either of you needs it. amazingly enough, steven and i learned how to have our own space AND respect each other's space AND maintain a happy household during those years we lived in studio apts. it'll work out, you'll see =) hmm. i think i can offer a somewhat different perspective… steven and i have been living together since the beginning of our relationship practically! first in the room he had in the apt he shared with two other guys (that lasted all of 6 months) and then when we moved out, we moved into a tiny studio for a year. the next year we moved into a slightly bigger studio. it wasn’t until our 3rd and 4th years living together that we upgraded to a 2 bedroom apt. 2 whole bedrooms and 2 whole bathrooms, can you imagine? we didn’t know what to with ourselves, haha.

anyway, besides communication and respect, i think the real key to us not killing each other in small spaces was our schedules. i was teaching at the time so i would get home by 3 and have up to 4 hours of alone time before steven got home from work every day. we were able to spend mornings together, too, which was nice. in the rare times we did have a fight or a disagreement, one of us (usually me) would sit in the bathroom or the walk-in closet until we calmed down. sounds hilarious now, but that’s what we used to do.

now that we’re happily married =) and in a new 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apt, i’m finding that our new challenges are of the decorating sort. namely, what colors to paint the walls, how to arrange the furniture, where to put the thousands of books i have and all of his electronic/gaming equipment, etc. a friend of mine who’s been married a lot longer told me when she and her husband were renovating their bathroom, they almost got divorced! i don’t know how serious and/or funny she was being, but it makes sense to me now, however silly and trivial it may sound. our only actual yelling and screaming fight was over how to arrange the furniture in our new living room. seriously.

so, in sum, like everyone else said, LOTS of communication, honesty, and respect, plus time to have to yourselves whenever either of you needs it. amazingly enough, steven and i learned how to have our own space AND respect each other’s space AND maintain a happy household during those years we lived in studio apts. it’ll work out, you’ll see =)

]]> By: meredith http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5352 meredith Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:12:41 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5352 Matthew and I have been living together for around three years now and it has certainly helped mold the relationship that we have today. When we decided to co-habitate, his parents had a four bedroom house with a den and two bedrooms in the back half. I moved there with him, his parents, his brother, his brother's pregnant girlfriend, our two cats, and his brother's dog. Needless to say, the situation was, um. . . less than ideal. I went from having my own apartment to sharing a bathroom with three other people. I would have to agree with everyone. Communication is your best ally in this situation. You can't be afraid to talk about what is throwing a wrench in your blissful state of matrimony. We laugh about it now, but there were a lot of tears and growing pains in that first year living together and even when we moved out into our own space. There are still things that we argue about. . . a sinkful of dirty dishes seems to drive Matthew crazy. For me, it's laundry that's left unfolded and not put away. But the most important thing is that we continually choose to remain in the relationship and make a daily commitment to each other and the life we're building together. On the "needing me-space" note, don't worry about it. It'll work out. Most likely, he'll need his space at some point too. And don't be afraid to ask for just an hour or two to yourself. If he's a good man (an I'm sure he is), he'll realize that when you take care of yourself, the better wife you can be. ok. . . that was long! Lots of love to you! Matthew and I have been living together for around three years now and it has certainly helped mold the relationship that we have today. When we decided to co-habitate, his parents had a four bedroom house with a den and two bedrooms in the back half. I moved there with him, his parents, his brother, his brother’s pregnant girlfriend, our two cats, and his brother’s dog. Needless to say, the situation was, um. . . less than ideal. I went from having my own apartment to sharing a bathroom with three other people.
I would have to agree with everyone. Communication is your best ally in this situation. You can’t be afraid to talk about what is throwing a wrench in your blissful state of matrimony. We laugh about it now, but there were a lot of tears and growing pains in that first year living together and even when we moved out into our own space. There are still things that we argue about. . . a sinkful of dirty dishes seems to drive Matthew crazy. For me, it’s laundry that’s left unfolded and not put away. But the most important thing is that we continually choose to remain in the relationship and make a daily commitment to each other and the life we’re building together.

On the “needing me-space” note, don’t worry about it. It’ll work out. Most likely, he’ll need his space at some point too. And don’t be afraid to ask for just an hour or two to yourself. If he’s a good man (an I’m sure he is), he’ll realize that when you take care of yourself, the better wife you can be.

ok. . . that was long! Lots of love to you!

]]> By: michelle http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5351 michelle Thu, 28 Jan 2010 07:29:56 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5351 Thanks for the great input, everyone! Your comments are comforting. Seems like everyone eventually figures it out. Leah - we're hoping to buy a house or condo. Alyssa - From what I've heard from couples who lived together before getting married, your relationship does change. In a good way, of course. You'll feel a stronger partnership. But you shouldn't want it to change too much, right? I'm actually hoping our relationship doesn't change too much. It's pretty good as it is. :) Thanks for the great input, everyone! Your comments are comforting. Seems like everyone eventually figures it out.

Leah – we’re hoping to buy a house or condo.

Alyssa – From what I’ve heard from couples who lived together before getting married, your relationship does change. In a good way, of course. You’ll feel a stronger partnership. But you shouldn’t want it to change too much, right? I’m actually hoping our relationship doesn’t change too much. It’s pretty good as it is. :)

]]> By: Nina http://www.michellewoo.com/2010/01/27/my-space/#comment-5350 Nina Thu, 28 Jan 2010 04:26:29 +0000 http://www.michellewoo.com/?p=1847#comment-5350 Yubo, who's an only child, used to freak out if I even dared move something on his desk (which sat in the living room of our tiny first apt). He wanted to have space when he came home from work. He wanted to not leave the bathroom door open so that we could talk. Oh, how things have changed. Heh. Seriously though...communication, respect, a willingness to hear each other out, to love each other even when you're really, really (and always justifiably) pissed...that will get you through the inevitable tough spots. Yubo, who’s an only child, used to freak out if I even dared move something on his desk (which sat in the living room of our tiny first apt). He wanted to have space when he came home from work. He wanted to not leave the bathroom door open so that we could talk.

Oh, how things have changed. Heh.

Seriously though…communication, respect, a willingness to hear each other out, to love each other even when you’re really, really (and always justifiably) pissed…that will get you through the inevitable tough spots.

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