EIGHTEEN OR SO DAYS! I REALLY DON’T KNOW! MATH IS NOT MY FORTE! BUT WHATEVER, THE WEDDING IS SOON! YES I’M STILL YELLING!
I’m feeling really, really, giddily good about our wedding, thanks to our awesome planner Paige and to the fact that dude, it’s our wedding! All the people we love (and the others we tolerate) will be sitting under the same big sycamore tree, watching us vow to honor and cherish each other for now and forevermore amen.
Yeah, about those vows, yeeeah. It’s kinda sad that figuring out the actual ceremony portion of the wedding is my final checkmark on the to-do list, falling right under “Make cocktail signs” and “Steam iron hair flower.” But that’s because it’s the hardest part. I’ve been debating over whether we should say something personal to each other, not necessarily our own vows, but some sweet words from the heart. It’s hard because on one hand, Matt and I don’t really say schmoopy, Hallmark-y things to each other. Like ever. So it would be weird to start now, on our wedding day. But on the other hand, it would be nice to write something, right? Every detail in this wedding has been mulled over and personalized. So for our ceremony, the most important part, why would we just go with a template?
I tried to write something tonight. I sat on the couch with my Moleskine notebook and started jotting down the reasons why I want to marry Matt. I thought I was off to a decent start but was running out of fuel. I decided to read him the list.
“You support all my life goals, even when they change every other day.
You encourage me to be a better (and more hygienic) person.
You take good care of me, petting my head and taking me to get pho when I’m sick.”
Matt stopped me. “Uh, it’s starting to sound like a kindergarten Mother’s Day card,” he said.
You know what? FINE! This is way too difficult.
But really, the more I think about it, reciting traditional vows—and adding nothing more—sounds like a good bet. I mean, what more do we need? We promise to love each other always, even when we get old and wrinkly and bald and fat. (OK, maybe not fat.)
It will be amazing no matter what. That is my vow.